One of the most important things for leaders to embrace is their humanness — their human messiness. The messiness of failure is inescapable and necessary for those who lead courageously. It is in how you acknowledge and handle your failures that make all of the difference in people experiencing you as confidently vulnerable, authentic and trustworthy. […]
The Trust Filter with Leadership Communication
Building and maintaining a culture of trust is simultaneously complex and simple — it is all about you and not about you. Learning this dance is a critical skill for successful leadership. As you go about your daily work, keeping your eye on the three of the components of trust — Reliability, Sincerity and Competence — […]
How Leaders Can Manage Perception Biases
Working with successful leaders over the years I’ve found the better a leader is at standing in another’s reality the better that leader is at managing perceptions. From a strengths perspective, if we have context for understanding the ‘common sense perceptions’ of others it’s easier to stand in another’s reality. The interplay of our individual strengths creates our […]
The Flawed Assumptions in Leadership Communication
Coming to realize (or know) what we are blind to can be very empowering and motivating to the teams you lead. It provides them a space to add value, a space for the contribution of their strengths in confident vulnerability. It is the transparency and humbleness of the leader’s demonstration of confident vulnerability that creates room at […]
Managing Perceptions in Leadership
Over the past month, as I have been debriefing Leadership 360’s assessment with gifted and talented leaders, I have been in several conversations regarding perception vs. intention. It is not uncommon for a leader’s image of themselves — how they are and how they show up as a leader — to be perceived differently by […]
Master Everyday Empathy
How we show up and are in relationship with others is an ongoing journey of self-reflection, self-awareness, and stepping into confident vulnerability with others. The best we can hope for is to continually improve our ability and capacity to step into another’s shoes — to see the world from their perspective and reflect that back […]
The Difference Between Empathy and Sympathy
Knowing what you know about yourself, pause and ask yourself ‘What is needed Now?’ Do you sense that you or others are in need of greater connection? If so, start building your Empathy capacity. It’s like a muscle – the more you become aware of it and exercise it the stronger and more conscious it becomes. […]
Everyday Conversations with Empathy
After spending one month examining our own self-deception great leaders develop a competence in infusing everyday conversations with empathy. It builds trust and leaves people feeling understood and cared for. People are still held accountable to meet their expectations but now it is done with care and consideration. It is not uncommon to find that most of us […]
The Relationship between Confidence and Leadership Success
The journey to authentic leadership through the eye-opening examination of Self-Deception is amazing. The results — a Heart at Peace. The reward of having a heart at peace leaves you feeling right with the world. I learned this from my personal journey through my own self-deception. We encounter our blind spots daily, so there is always work to […]
Leading and Self-Deception
Living in alignment with your values, strengths and purpose by doing the work is rewarding in and of itself. In my experience, I know that working to ‘stay out of the box’ is not always easy work. At times, I find myself resisting the work. And I know that when I pause to ‘do the work’ it results in […]