Be The Director of Your Reality

Sometimes reality can really be not so nice, particularly on TV. Contestants are frequently voted off the island, fired from apprentice jobs and judged to be lacking in any distinct talent.

In “real life,” reality can be the cause of serious disappointments and can be compared to swallowing  bitter. There aren’t too many of us who have not suffered from major economic hardships, such as downsizing to outright business failures, from the mortgage crises to investment losses. Few of us have escaped unaffected.

Some people are more buoyant, and are able to bounce back more quickly. Others find it a struggle to cope with the changes that are forced upon them. So what makes the ‘realities’ different?

While few of us personally donated to the housing problems and bank collapses, each of us must take tenure of our responsibility to effect personal change and take the steps necessary to move forward. It may be tempting to see yourself as an unlucky victim, but thinking in this way only causes feelings of helplessness. When you assign yourself the position of becoming  a victim, you deplete all of the energy you need to be resilient.

Is it time to see your situation in a different way — an approach that many of us inherently fears and resist. You have to make a choice:

• Are you ready to take steps to better your current situation?
• Do you want to stay where you are, and remain stuck?
• Do you want to flourish?

Ordinary existence has little energy or effort to it.  Prospering,  however, strengthens us to move forward. The problem is, when we experience loss it overwhelmingly affects us. Our physical and emotional reserves are drained, and our thought process can become contaminated. Instead of confidence in our future, we become prone to negative thinking, doubts and fears.

These tough situations and emotions are good reasons to work with a coach, like myself. It is impossible to know what you don’t know, and during this time, even your best thinking won’t pull you out of a negative hole.

Recognizing genuineness is one thing. Choosing to thrive, see and respond to situations differently requires both courage and imagination.

I’d love to hear from you in reference to how do you manage how you see reality?