The Wrong Way to Apologize at Work


In my last series I focused on how people perceive what we say or do. Sometimes, what we say or do is an innocent mistake and sometimes we have simply messed up. In either case it serves us to know how to apologize. Many people apologize in a manner that seems to add insult to […]


Managing Perceptions Through Filters


One of the most important things for leaders to embrace is their humanness — their human messiness.  The messiness of failure is inescapable and necessary for those who lead courageously. It is in how you acknowledge and handle your failures that make all of the difference in people experiencing you as confidently vulnerable, authentic and trustworthy. […]


The Trust Filter with Leadership Communication


Building and maintaining a culture of trust is simultaneously complex and simple — it is all about you and not about you. Learning this dance is a critical skill for successful leadership. As you go about your daily work, keeping your eye on the three of the components of trust — Reliability, Sincerity and Competence — […]


How Leaders Can Manage Perception Biases


Working with successful leaders over the years I’ve found the better a leader is at standing in another’s reality the better that leader is at managing perceptions. From a strengths perspective, if we have context for understanding the ‘common sense perceptions’ of others it’s easier to stand in another’s reality. The interplay of our individual strengths creates our […]


The Flawed Assumptions in Leadership Communication


Coming to realize (or know) what we are blind to can be very empowering and motivating to the teams you lead. It provides them a space to add value, a space for the contribution of their strengths in confident vulnerability. It is the transparency and humbleness of the leader’s demonstration of confident vulnerability that creates room at […]